True Love.

I realise now it is virtually impossible to love others until you learn to love yourself.

The question is, how do we love ourselves?

I don't think many of us were ever taught how. Not really.

And an absence of love in ones life leads inevitably to a state of hate.

Many have asked- & i am one of them- "how do i love myself"??

Some of us TRY to do it, but it is not really love; it is more like self interest, selfishness, or being 'up oneself'.

This is not love.

So how then do we love ourselves?

In my opinion, one of the impediements to true, authentic self love is our habit of being hard on ourselves.

The way we punish ourselves, judge ourselves, berate ourselves for every little transgression.

You cannot love yourself- or anyone else- while you are roasting yourself over the fire of your failures, your shortcomings, or your past 'sins' & iniquities.

This will only lead to more of the same.

The first step to loving yourself, is to LET GO of this negative self harm. Just let it go.

We are so interenched in this fowl habit, it will take many of us a great deal of time to let go effectively, but do it we must.

For to love- to truly love- there is no other way.

Let go of self punishment.

Just let go.

Let the negative self harming thoughts that assail you in the darkest night dissolve like aspirin in a glass of water.

In time, that fizzy lump will dissolve that you might see clearly.

And in that clarity, love will grow.

For yourself first, & then for others.

True love...